What Breaks A Narcissist

What breaks a narcissist?

Ignore their forms of manipulation.

Narcissists use their games to manipulate you, so don't let them. They have a whole slew of games they use to control you, such as love bombing, gaslighting, and revenge. You can’t beat a narcissist by playing their games because that’s what they want. Just ignore them when they try to manipulate you. This will drive them crazy because they can’t control you any more. Don't argue with an narcissist because they'll just keep escalating things until they get their way. They're incapable of seeing things from your point of view. Just ignore them. Revenge is actually one of the narcissist’s games. When they feel slighted, they'll spread rumors about you, destroy your stuff, or get violent. In some cases, they'll pursue revenge over a long period of time. Normal ways of getting revenge don’t work on a narcissist, but they’ll hate seeing you move on.

Flaunt how happy you are without them.

Seeing you happy absolutely tortures a narcissist. They will never truly be happy because they don’t have the emotional capacity for it. They can only play games and try to put others down. Show them you’re living your best life without them, and they’ll experience their own version of heartbreak. You could:Post photos on social media of you having fun with friends or family.Brag to your mutual friends about your accomplishments or progress on goals.Go on a few casual or group dates to dip your toes in the dating scene.Give yourself a post-breakup.

Set boundaries to protect yourself.

Boundaries help you shut down the narcissist, which they hate. Establish boundaries by figuring out what you need from this person. Then, tell them your expectations for them. Be honest about what you’re willing to accept from them, and what you won’t allow. You might say things like:"Please stop contacting me.""Don’t share my photos with other people.""I won’t talk to you when you’re yelling.""I’m ending the conversation if you call me names.""I’m only going to talk to you about the kids."

Deny them what they want.

Focusing on your needs shows them what they’re losing. Narcissists are the biggest users ever. They expect you to be there for them, but they have no intention of reciprocating. Start saying "no" to them, and focus on what you want instead. They’ll get super frustrated and realize how great a partner you were for them.Stop returning their phone calls and texts.Don’t react to anything they say or do.Refuse to give them compliments.Stop doing favors for them.

Stay calm when they try to upset you.

Narcissists need a reaction from you to be fulfilled, so don't give them one. They want you to get mad, distressed, or apologetic. Any type of reaction will make them feel like they’re winning, whether it’s lashing out, crying, or apologizing. Even though it’s hard, do your best to be calm and not react.Try: Taking several deep breaths.

Cut off all contact with them if you can.

Communicating with a narcissist gives them power, so take it away. They’ll try to use lines of communication to weasel their way back into your life. On the other hand, going no contact makes them feel your loss.[8] Block them on your phone and social media, and try to avoid places they’ll be.You might have to keep talking to them if you have kids together or if you work with them. Try to keep your conversations limited to talking about your children or your job.

Be leery of future love bombing.

Avoid their attempts to suck you back in to keep control over your life. To do this, they’ll love bomb you like they did in the beginning of your relationship. They’re hoping to draw you back to them, which is called "hoovering." However, this change is temporary, and they’ll be back to their narcissistic behavior again once you lower your defenses. Brush off their efforts and you’ll come out on top.They’ll likely shower you with compliments and tell you how much they miss you. They’re only going to keep this up until you come back, and then they’ll be back to their games.

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By Lori Williams.